Apparently, this is part of a general campaign to encourage people to explore the landscapes and to encourage friendly and responsible behaviour. Nothing wrong with that. It’s just a shame that we need reminders to be civilised.
Greeting people we don’t actually know but whom we encounter face to face as we go about our daily business is a habit with many benefits.
Social interaction is thought to be an essential component of mental wellbeing, and it makes a significant contribution to health and longevity. It makes us aware of those with whom we share our space. It acknowledges that we are not alone on the planet. It affirms the presence of another human being. It reminds us that we are all connected.
To refuse to do so seems perverse and curmudgeonly. It’s as if we are saying that only those people who are privileged to be part of our close circle, only those whose names we know, are worthy of a moment’s attention. It’s actually a bit arrogant.
We all hate feeling ignored:
- ‘Walked straight past as if I wasn’t there.’
- ‘Didn’t even glance in my direction.’
- ‘Completely blanked me.’
- ‘Looked right through me.’
Although we know that the offending person might have just been miles away, wrapped up in their own thoughts, the sting is still there.
Sometimes we’re embarrassed to say hello. It feels intrusive, even invasive. We wonder what the other person will think of us. We worry about seeming odd or gauche. But you know, it’s a real shame if we let self-consciousness and over-analysis get in the way of healthy human interaction. And although it is something of a compromise, you can actually ‘say hello’ without speaking.
Greetings can consist of any of the following, singly or in combination:
- Brief eye contact. And don’t worry about the ‘eye’ thing, just glance at the person’s face.
- A quick raising of the eyebrows.
- Something like a smile. It doesn’t have to be a full-on grin, but a little stretch or softening of the mouth…
- A nod.
- An inclination of the head.
- A hand movement.
- A tip of the cap. Well, why not? If you’re wearing one, of course.
- Spoken words:
And that’s all you have to do. You don’t have to stop and chat. You don’t have to become best friends. Just greet and move on, or study your phone, or gaze into the distance. You’ve done it.
Habits are catching. Your behaviour may well encourage someone to behave in the same way. That is one of the ways in which norms are established. A little nudge in the direction of friendliness and civility can only do good.
And for the romantics out there, who knows what might come of a greeting? True, ‘It Started With An Eyebrow Flash’ doesn’t have quite the same resonance as ‘It Started With A Kiss’ (thank you, Hot Chocolate), but hey…
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